Advice on Marriage & Relationships
Judge Benns provides the perspective of a decision maker in Family Court. She discusses her role and informs listeners about what information she needs from them and shares some ideas about how to prepare for court.
Martina shares financial expertise to navigate the separation and divorce process as well as personal anecdotes about her own experience of divorce.
Kathleen Wells is an experienced mediator and litigator with an extensive history in arbitration. In this episode, Kathleen shares her view on using a collaborative approach with families experiencing separation and divorce to help them to find clarity in their decisions.
Mike Denis shares his perspective on working with teens, his approach to therapy and his interest in helping families experiencing separation and divorce.
Doug Moe, Q.C. is a respected lawyer, arbitrator and mediator in Calgary, Alberta. His firm Moe Hannah LLP was recently noted as the second most recommended law firm by their peers in a Globe and Mail article. His practice is largely mediation and arbitration of family law disputes. In this first podcast, Doug shares his view of how mediation and arbitration can assist people experiencing separation and divorce. He shares his experiences and suggestions to effectively resolve their family law matters.
In all relationships there is a push and pull of closeness and distance. Some people need more belonging while others need more autonomy or space. In the Psychological literature these ideas are discussed in terms of attachment. Attachment is the emotional bond built with our caregivers in the earliest days of life and those bonds show themselves throughout various stages of development even lasting into adulthood.
Think about how you like to feel supported by your spouse. For some of us an explicit expression of help is a welcome gesture and brings about a sense of appreciation. For others, an explicit effort to help makes us feel more stressed and even annoyed. Appreciating what tasks our partner’s feel confident with is the key to being appropriately supportive. These are the findings of the authors of a research study in 2017.
With the arrival of COVID-19 and the resulting isolation measures in place, all Canadians have felt some impact on family dynamics. This means that parents have been managing their children more of the time and engaging in what researchers call family work. This family work generally takes on three forms: housework, child rearing and emotion work. While housework and child rearing can be easily observed, emotion work is done covertly and is not easily seen or measured.
Many couples struggle to find a good match in couple friends. The wife might really like the female in the relationship, or the husband might really like the male in the couple. Often one might be too loud, drink too much or be a little dull. These incompatibilities can spill over into disagreements between the couple or result in isolation or individual friend groups.
I have noticed that a new perspective can have a powerful impact on a marriage. We are so often stuck in our own vantage point and are unable to see how this perspective blocks any other.